Fix: Only create @babel/node IPC channel when needed (#13295)

Co-authored-by: Huáng Jùnliàng <jlhwung@gmail.com>

packages/babel-node/test/fixtures/cli/subprocess-ipc/in-files/payload.js

@@ -0,0 +1,2 @@
+process.send({ hello: "world" });
+console.log("ipc enabled");

packages/babel-node/test/fixtures/cli/subprocess-ipc/options.json

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+{
+  "args": ["payload.js"],
+  "ipcMessage": { "hello": "world" },
+  "ipc": true,
+  "stdout": "ipc enabled"
+}